If, like some of us, you have a lack of experience in the dating field, struggling to get past the first date (or in the words of Sir Alex Ferguson, having a bit of a “squeaky bum time” before your date walks in) you’re most likely panicking trying to find something to help you relax your nerves that isn’t 3 shots of voddy. If this sounds all too familiar to you, take a deep breath and wipe the sweat from your brow. You can relax now, here are some questions that will help the date go smoothly.
Share, Share, Share
Conversation is like a dance, there’s give and take. Asking questions is a must, sure, but don’t feel like you need to neglect sharing any outlooks that you find interesting and really matter to you. Everyone is different and the things we find interesting vary from person to person; just don’t go overboard and make it a CIA interrogation about every detail of their childhood.
Passion Over Profession
To be brutally honest, peoples jobs aren’t usually interesting, unless they are truly passionate about them. Instead of asking about their day to day grind, ask things like – What keeps you occupied in your free time? What’s your biggest dream? If there was an Olympics for everyday activities, what medal would you have a decent chance at winning? – excitement and passion are more striking than how they earn their beer money. This way you get a larger insight into their personality rather than an insight into how Joana is getting on everyone’s nerves in the office.
Weird Can be Wonderful
Go weird with it to match your personality – leave an impression and stand out from regular bozos by making them laugh. Peculiar questions can bring out a side of them that wouldn’t normally be dragged out so early on. Be careful, a good example of a bad question is: “What’s the largest animal you think you could knock out with a single punch?” they will either be terribly insulted or laugh, and if you’re into those types of jokes, maybe you’re showing a red flag. Ask questions like “where’s the strangest place you’ve ever been?”, “what’s the weirdest thing you’ve ever done with friends?” or “What are you best known for among your friends?” these all can bring out a side of your date you wouldn’t normally see at this point.
You may not even need to ask questions, why not play a game to break the ice? It relaxes the nerves and can easily lead to further conversations. Two Truths One Lie always brings a few laughs to the table, you can’t go wrong when there is a questionable story involved! Another game you could try out is 10 Fingers, similar to 20 questions, you hold up eight fingers and both thumbs and ask ‘Yes’ or ‘No’ questions, every time your date answers ‘No’ you drop a finger. The last person with a finger remaining up wins the game and the loser buys a round (or a slice of cake if you’re at a cafe). Another option is to choose a year and tell each other what you were doing at that point in your life. Let’s just hope they don’t say “prison”.
It’s easy to brag when meeting someone new – don’t be afraid of a healthy level of self-depreciation to “humanize” you and make you more approachable. Turn the tables and share a guilty pleasure, or tell them how your first ever CD was the Scissor Sisters – mind you, they have come out with some absolute bangers.
Getting the first date is down to you, but through online dating with JigTalk it might be easier than you think! Hopefully, when you meet that special someone, the conversation flows like the Niagara falls.